Actually, 2016 was a good year

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Now that we’re officially in 2017, and most of you are home, here are my thoughts on the New Year.

First, let’s get this out of the way. 2016 sucked, and we said goodbye to many celebrities and loved ones, and Trump is the president elect of the USA. Things seem to have turned out pretty shitty.

But, as we sometimes forget we do, we focus on the negative things, and we neglect to look for a balance between good and bad. Many beautiful and amazing things also happened in 2016, such as new chemotherapy breakthroughs that will give hope to so many cancer patients, scientists linked robotic limbs to the human brain giving hope to amputees, child mortality rates are going down, the gene responsible for ALS was found, a solar powered plane circumnavigated the world, tiger, manatee, and panda numbers are growing, 70,000 Muslim clerics declared a fatwa against ISIS, volunteers in India planted 50 million trees in 24 hours, coffee consumption has been proved to curtail cancer and suicide rates, 500 elephants were relocated to better and safer homes, massive strides in Alzheimers prevention were made, a new radiation sickness therapy was developed in Israel, the Rabbinical Assembly issued a resolution affirming the rights of transgender and non-conforming individuals, precision treatments for cancer are hitting clinical trials, and Leo FINALLY won that Oscar!

(More good news here https://goo.gl/NyvCiS)

Yes, we had a shocking list of family members, friends, and celebrities who passed away during 2016, and we are saddened by the massive loss of companionship, connections, and talent, but we need to also remember the other behind-the-scenes people who are working really hard and dedicating their lives to making the world a better place, and we need to see all the lives that were and will be saved and improved by the amazing discoveries made.

That being said, I am also taking something positive from all the deaths in 2016. The fact that we were sad and that we mourned them showed me that we are not blasé about death, that we still feel deeply, and that our humanity is still intact.

So I propose that we focus on and celebrate the good in the world, the innovation, the good deeds, the good people, the positive. We need to remind ourselves that we are capable of so much more than what we believe, and that we need to look inward and see our value ourselves, and find the solutions and positivity inside ourselves, instead of listening to the doom and gloom, and negativity of politicians and the media.

We need to set our different opinions aside, and in love we should celebrate our humanity, and work together to build a better world. Together we can fight oppression, inequality, and all the bad that is forced on us.

So I wish you all an amazing and prosperous, positive, joyful, happy, and successful 2017!

Let us be the light in the world.

Musings on choices, fate, and death

Do our decisions affect others or just how they affect us? Or do our decisions lead to, or avoid collisions of fate, or do we collide anyway but our decisions just change the impact the intertwined fate has on our lives?
Do we even have a choice, and if we do, could we change fate by making different choices? How would knowing the full outcome change the decisions we make? Do we perhaps make decisions too hastily without thinking of all the repercussions? Yes, fate, decisions, and future outcomes are like an intricate chess game, but are we too impatient when making decisions? Did we go from making wise decisions after careful deliberation, to a game of speed chess where we rely on instinct? Would we be more effective in making a positive future with positive outcomes if we pause, meditate, and deeply consider our decisions have on our futures and the future of others?
Or do we just delay the inevitable fate we all face, or perhaps just play into the hands of destiny?
Would things have been different if other decisions were made? If you reach out and get to know someone (as opposed to making the opposite decision), would they have been with you and have done something different at the time when they should have died; by making that decision to get to know them, you would have changed the outcome? Or is the line drawn and their death imminent, and your original decision only means that they are no longer a stranger and that you will now be mourning their death?

Real Beauty

Your real beauty is what is seen when you choose not to be beautiful to the world.

The beauty of your eyes mean nothing if those eyes cannot see the plight of others.

Your gorgeous smile is tainted by the words of hate, pride and gossip you speak.

Your defined chest is unattractive when the heart beating underneath is cold and selfish.

Your washboard abs mean nothing when the stomach underneath never understood the pain of other’s hunger.

Your beautiful legs are like plain concrete pylons if you choose not to walk a path with someone.

Your perfectly manicured hands are only smooth and comforting once you’ve helped someone up.

Your real beauty is what is seen when you choose not to be beautiful to the world.

Waiting for me to be me, us to be us

Every time you say that you need someone, every time you say that you are lonely, I want to open my mouth and say that I am here for you, that I want to be that person.
But I am not ready to be that person for you. I am still trying to figure out if I am the right person for me. I am still battling with my identity, who I am, I don’t know yet.
I don’t know if I am ready to commit, as much as I really want to. I don’t want to hurt you and break your heart. I want to be 100% certain that I can be with you as the person I am, and not the person I think I may be.
Once all those obstacles are gone we can run together freely, not even looking around us. Free to get lost in each other’s eyes, ignoring the world of delusion around us.

Twitter: Making Love so easy, yet so difficult

Recently I have pondered over the flirting and love-type messages going around Twitter, and I have realised this: Twitter is making it easy to find love, acceptance, support, and even some affection (albeit in that weird cyber-sex I-would-like-to-fondle-your-avatar type way) across borders and over vast distances.  But Twitter is also making it difficult, because we are constantly engaging in these relationship-building activities when in reality it is difficult, and sometimes impossible to ever meet the person in real life.

The use of terms like “Twitter Boyfriend” and “Twitter Lover” have been more common, and I see request for such on a weekly basis.

One has to wonder if this all makes any sense. Yes, I do believe that long-distance relationships can work, and most of them do, but is it really worth our while to have a relationship over Twitter (or any other social media tool for that matter) over the vast distances, and never have that physical contact? Heck, some people don’t even know what their “Twitter Boyfriend”‘s voice sounds like, as they have never even had a phone conversation.

Are we wasting time finding love on Twitter, with great people far, far way? Even if these people are perfect for us, and would, under any other circumstances, make the perfect life companion? Shouldn’t we rather look closer to home, or would that be too difficult?  Has the convenience and reach of social media tools made us lazy “hunters” or pursuers?  Are we perhaps losing out on a bigger and awesome relationship because we are too afraid to step away from the protected are behind our firewalls?

I think so. We have become lazy.  The effort is gone. It is easy to hide behind emoticons and the excuse that you can’t convey your story in more than 140 characters.  We don’t have to woo, date, or spend intimate and interactive time with someone. We just hop on to Skype or MSN, and voila! we have a date.

(On that subject, getting a “Skype date” isn’t always possible. We have all heard the excuse “My webcam is broken”.  Seriously? If they don’t wanna Skype with video, they’re just not that in to you.  I am not even going to start talking about the plethora of Twitter accounts with their fake photos, or people who upload photos of some unknown model and pretend it’s their own photo.)

Now, don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that it is all bad. I have seen many people meet great companions over social media, and yes, social media has its merits.  All I am saying is that we need to be concerned about the impact social media is having on our relationship choices, and how it is impacting our abilities to interact (and possibly start a relationship) with someone outside the scope of social media.